Remember these icebreaker activities you were required to do in grade school? The teacher would ask for a fun fact or three ways to define yourself. What makes you, you. Those ice breakers always brought extreme anxiety. Now just the fear of all eyes on me or speaking out loud. It was the fact that I had no idea how to define myself.
What I didn’t realize then was that I have the power to choose who I am.
I would answer that question with adjectives others labeled me as. I was shy, kind, quiet, and caring. While at times, I am these things, these characteristics don’t define me.
While I don’t find myself getting forced into an ice breaker activities, I do meet new people. I think about how I introduce myself, and the characteristics people see are ones that I CHOOSE to show.
I don’t want to be defined by aspects that are not me, and I used to see that as something external or out of my control. But now I know that I hold power.
Others may see aspects in you and label you, but at the end of the day- you define yourself.